Author: Justin Bariso

Last week we spoke about how to use regret to your advantage—to use it as a tool, and transform it from harmful to helpful.   This week, let’s speak about how you can prevent regret in the first place.   Remember, there are two reasons for regret:   1. We say or do something we…

This week I want to speak about a powerful word:   Regret.   Regret is defined as a feeling of sadness or disappointment about something that you did—or something you did not do.    Maybe you regret something you said to a colleague, a loved one, or even a stranger—and wish you could take it…

I just had the most amazing conversation with neuroscientist and bestselling author Anne-Laure Le Cunff.    Anne-Laure spent an hour with members of the Lighthouse, and we spoke about her experience working at Google, followed by a failed startup, and how her learnings led to a new approach—and a new book.   Anne-Laure also shared…

How stressed do you get about time?   Let’s see if any of the following scenarios sound familiar:   You get a late start, and the whole day you’re running behind You always feel rushed, to the point that you start to get panicky You look at your task list at the end of the…

A few weeks ago, I was struggling.   No particular reason. It was more like a thousand things all at the same time.   As I finished up work for the day, I put on some headphones and put on some music.    Suddenly, something interesting happened…   I felt all this pent up emotion.…

I’ve made a lot of mistakes.    This isn’t a secret. Despite having spent years coaching executives, managers, teams, and therapists on emotional intelligence and communication, I’m not perfect—not even close.   That’s not horrible. It just means I’m human.    The key is I’ve learned from most of those mistakes…and that’s given me valuable…

Want to know how you can be a better:   leader teammate spouse parent friend   There’s one thing you can do for others, that almost no one else does.   It’s a way to help others become the best version of themselves. A gift that keeps on giving.   What is this gift?  …

“But, why would you do it that way?”   For the life of me, I couldn’t understand why my wife would possibly load the cup saucers toward the front of the dishwasher. They seemed to be such an obvious fit towards the back.    And besides, putting them in the front totally messed up the…

Last week we spoke about the value of delivering emotionally intelligent feedback—feedback that the recipient sees as helpful, not harmful.   But what if we’re on the receiving end of feedback? What if that feedback is negative? Or, what if it’s, gasp: criticism???   Criticism. Just the thought might send chills down your spine.  …

When I was a young manager, I hated the thought of giving negative feedback to my team.   “What if it doesn’t go well?” I’d ask myself. “What if they completely miss the point? Or, worse yet, what if they get upset?”   Those were valid concerns, because most leaders and managers use one of…